Swooping Is Bad

privateai:

Abandoned thing I’ll never have time to finish, from a time long ago when I was in the mood to draw all the silly faces and Megamind was on loop at work and I couldn’t stop laughing at this scene. X3

(click-through because there is no way Tumblr is going to suffer legibility in comics.)

kylathegreat:

red3blog:

A Message to My Fellow Fat Admirers

Dudes!

What up?

So, I’ve noticed some of my fellow male fat admirers throwing tantrums when women object to be sexualized without consent. These dudes whine about how the women are telling them aren’t allowed to find fat bodies attractive.

Cut that shit out. Like now.

No one is out to confiscate your boners. Sexual attraction to fat bodies is totally awesome. There may be people out there who want to shame you for your sexuality, but its not these women. So, by all means, holster your outrage and listen up.

The issue these women are complaining about isn’t sexual attraction. They are asking to be treated with respect and dignity. Try not to be shocked at this stunning request. You still get that be sexually attracted to fat women. Just, maybe respect them.

And actually, strike that maybe.

Don’t act all mystified at this concept. Its possible to interact with people you feel a sexual attraction towards without sexualizing them. Sexual attraction doesn’t mandate objectification. That’s just you being an asshole. Trust me, I’ve been attracted to fat women as long as I can remember. I’m still able to appreciate context and react accordingly. Its NOT. FUCKING. HARD. I’m sick and tired of men acting like this is impossible and that people are trying to police their arousal. Are these women saying its wrong to have sexual desire for fat bodies? NO.  Its not about your sexuality. Its about THEIR sexuality. They may well be very happy to experience a fat admirer’s sexual desire, but on their terms and with their consent. This isn’t outrageous or obnoxious. Its their right.

I get that no one has ever told you that you should respect fat women, but you should. I get that men are often taught by our culture to sexualize and objectify women constantly, but that doesn’t make it okay and it certainly doesn’t make you the victim when people tell you to stop. Our culture systematically attempts to strip women of their sexual agency and men have a responsibility to do their part to stop that. Which means starting with not doing yourself and continues with telling other men to stop doing it.

This is especially important for fat women who already live in a culture that conspires to desexualize them. They often find themselves in scenarios where they are told to choose between never being desired sexually or always being objectified sexually. That’s fucked up and wrong. You should be able to know that by just basic empathy, but I’d submit that as fat admirers its in our interest to combat thin privilege and male privilege. Not just because standing with our current or prospective romantic and sexual partners on issues of basic human dignity is the right thing to do (though that really should be enough), but its in our self-interest, too. Those restricted options women face impact us, too. We are being taught that our sexuality is wrong and that if we act upon it that we are deviants. We are told we don’t deserve to open, loving relationships with partners we are sexually attracted to. We are told we shouldn’t date them because they are “unhealthy”. We are told there must be some defect that causes our sexuality. We are being denied the opportunity to embrace our sexuality in the ways men with conventional attractions take for granted. The women who complain about objectification of fat women aren’t trying to take away our sexuality, they are trying to fight for it! We should stand with them and resist those who tell us to sexualize and objectify fat women because they don’t deserve better and we don’t deserve better.

I know there must be a lot of questions circling your head right now. Like, will I get a cookie if I respect women? No. Go buy your own cookies. You do this because its right. Or, “but, Brian, how will I masterbate?” First off, find someone with a hand to spare and ask them smack you in the back of the head. What did I tell you about no one confiscating your boners? I’m telling you to recognize context as an element of personal expression. Fat people have a lot of reasons to display their body that have nothing to do with your personal gratification and that’s what you need to respect. Maybe its body-positive photography on Tumblr. Maybe its burlesque dance. Maybe its just going to the beach in a bikini. These things aren’t done to get you off, and that’s okay. You can appreciate what they are doing for what it is. You can and should support fat women being affirmational about their bodies without expecting that is being done for your limited benefit. Its okay to just say “that’s beautiful”. It doesn’t have to be about what’s going on in your pants.

And, in case you hadn’t noticed (and of course you have), there are fat women who want to express their sexuality in a way which DOES consent to your sexual gratification. You are lucky in that if you want to consume pornography that you have a wealth of options that are produced and controlled by the women appearing in it. These women have a made a choice for their own sexual expression and agency. Women of a myriad of shapes, sizes, colors, ages, and even gender identity. So fucking spare me the complaints when women who don’t consent take issue with being objectified. The problem is respecting their sexual agency. Objectification means you don’t. Indeed, you probably specifically seek out women are not trying to express their own sexuality. Don’t be that guy. Be better.

(Oh, and if you’re a dude who isn’t a fat admirer, feel free to take the word “fat” out above and it apply the same to you because we all know you dudes do this shit, too.)

<3 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ngl, I’m shocked by this.  A man celebrating heavy women, treating them like, you know, human beings, and advocating that other men should treat them as such? I know all men can’t be douchebags, statistically speaking, but I tend to believe that you’re a douchbag male until proven otherwise.  This gives me hope, though. 

How sad is it that we live in a society where there’s very little hope for heavy, average or skinny women to be treated with respect?  Or maybe I’m just being cynical, but as a heavy woman myself, the thought that there might be a guy out there that is fine with my body, who isn’t concerned with how I’ll look when he introduces me to his friends, who, when he sees me naked isn’t repulsed, but aroused is like a fairytale.  Fun to daydream about, but not something that happens in real life.

(via eowyning)

Basically.

(via bambistark)

bambistark:

agnosticvampire:

phobs-heh:

bambistark:

Oh sweet lord it’s legit, my heart <3

Daaw,she is so little <3

Damn,I’m just can’t reblog all the NY avengers photos - to much of them xD

WHO THE FUCK IS SHE?!?! STOP HUGGING LOKI, BITCH!!!!

Wooooooow…

That would be Scarlett Johansson, aka the Black Widow, aka his co-star.

I love how Jeremy Renner is standing behind, all “Yeah, hug and kiss all you want, but she’s coming home with me.”

He’s seriously never five feet from ScarJo in these pics. Ugh, so cute.

I ship these two SO. FUCKING. HARD.  They’re always together in pictures, and they just…alkdjalkdjaldkjsf. So cute.

(Source: cumbermischief, via hogwarting)

WAIT I REMADE IT LOL

I’m reblogging all the Loki tonight. ALL OF THE LOKI.

(Source: becausehiddles)

(Source: becausehiddles)

gingerhaze:

Loki smiles kept in the theatrical version: 1.

They kept this out because they didn’t want the girls to fall for Loki. It’s called ‘THOR’, dammit. Can’t have Loki getting all the love.

Because, srsly.  His face needs to stop.